If you cherish your tiara(s) as I do mine, you will wear them occasionally; at least once a day This asks the question: What is the best way to wear her? At one time, how you wore your tiara was pretty much a decided issue. You wore it with pretty long hair that was put up. That is no longer true. Just recently, Sophie Rhys Jones wore to her wedding a tiara and her hair was described in the article as "Cropped". This to me is more than a bit of a sacrelige. Wearing a tiara with anything but long here and a dress should be banned from the Civilized World under pain of having to eat something that is absolutely revolting in the most disgusting manner yet devised by Saddam Hussein.

Then, too, that was also, about 35 years ago and there were all kinds of rules about wearing your tiara, such as when, how and things like that. That never really resonated with me as I always though the my tiara was expressive of my personna, not my place on the aristocratic food chain or as part of a costume, which were the going things at the time. To me, Tiara was always an end in herself.

Also prevalent was the belief that you should cover the band and/or pin it in place, This made a certain amout of sense if you were a skater or dancer. But a tiara has not been worn as part of the competition outfit in over thirty years Now, that has changed. As the tiara is becoming more of a major part of your dress and less of an "accessory", you pretty much wear your tiara as you wish. In fact some of them have designs embossed or engraved on the band.

Also prevalent was the belief that you must put your hair up. For a hardcore addict (read "nutcake") like me, who wears her tiara(s) often just to make them know that they are appreciated, putting up my hair so much would be no fun. Besides, I like the way my tiara looks with my hair down and there is nothing higher than her, I don't look so dowager-ish and more like a normal human being

Because the band has a certain amout of flexibility, you can wear your tiara higher or lower on your head depending upon size, shape and your mood. Wearing it higher makes me feel different than wearing it lower, more like a little girl. However I would not wear a tall, 3" or larger tiara high as it tends to look ready to topple over. I would not wear a wide tiara, such as a Celtic style, very high. I would not wear a small tiara low, nor would I wear a narrow one, say one that the frontpiece is less then twice as wide as it is high, low; not that I care for either the Celtic or narrow tiara to start with, the former tends to wander pointlessly along the band and the latter looks like a rhinoceros horn.

I suggest that you experiment with different ways to wear your lovely headpiece and see which way you like best. You are wearing her as an end in herself.