PRIVACY and SECURITY

This is the longest and most detailed subject because the subject matter is the most touchy on the internet. If you are not concerned about privacy and security, sooner or later, which usually means sooner, you will be; and very unpleasantly so. Why not deal with these issues now, when you are not up against it and you can do so in a way that lets you still enjoy yourself on the web: Sounds like a good deal to me. There are very few things that anyone can say "We are all about..."; but given the nature of this place, The concerns of highest priority are prvacy and security. The likely membership runs from newbies to the very experinece; from the very open to, not just in the closet, but in the most inaccessible back of the closet; afraid of their onw shadow and I have no way of knowing which of these you are. Well I am with you, for one reason, you do not know what kinds of creatures inhabit the world of "alternative lifestyles". Our biggest concerns are privacy and security because, when you come here, what touches you has a good chance of touching us and what touches us will end up touching you. Just to show how it can get, CNET, a well-known and respected place for free downloads has been including StartNow, which is known malware, in their downloads and has been called out on it. In Novemver of '11, I had a crash related to a download that cost me $US200 and much of my software to fix, So we are very self-contained with our points of access being "arm's length" and we stronglyencourage you to use reasonable security measures, tools and processes

We start by telling you to get webmail for your special business. It is free, fairly anonymouse (does not lead directly to your machine) since you are not using an onboard tool there is a natural barrier between your mail and your machine in the form of your browser and, in my case, un-enabled email programs. You have no idea of how many times that saved my tiara. And that is just the first layer. Viruses and spam like to get into your address book and then mail themselves out to the addresses they find. When the emailer is disabled there is no connection in or out. So unless it is a very sophisticated virus, all it can do is just sit there, cry and wet itself. If you are good with code, you can torture it Webmail is relatively safe, being guarded against malware. Also some webmails feature chat and connect/friends, which saves us having to do it and lets you make it a choice.

You must be a member of one of our clubs to publish stories, articles or photos. Other than little Rubber Babydolls, which is our public blogging section. stories that are relevent to a club are only available to members. the tiara club has "The Tiara", Rubber Kiss has "the Rubber Sheet" and Dolly Girls has "All Dolled Up" for stories, articles and images that pertain to the club.

We made it so that in-site links, like the clubs, others' rooms, the sign-in to your mail and the like are in the house, so you need not even have them on your machine if you do not wish. If you decide to save a link to here, it will be to "fastnav" since you will not really know if you wish to stay until you have gotten that far and you can label it as you wish to make it look "plain vanilla" enough to not make anyone want to open it, or, like me, store it on a removeable card or stick.

We do not allow in-site direct peer-to-peer access, nor have we the means to implement it. Even I do not have it other than the usual site administration and webmistress tools. That can be utilized to attack others or tamper with their things, as we found out from Diaperbook. All peer-to-peer contact is done off-site and we try to keep an eye on that as well. This is why we have pre-defined mailing lists that you use as contact lists why I am to be included in all mailing lists that are generated from here

We recommend using adult content friendly resources since they also tend to be "no questions asked".

Profiles and Communications: to aid in protecting privacy,

As part of our "no in-site direct peer-to-peer access" policy: NO PUBLIC PROFILE PAGES ON THIS SITE. You can use the Profle kit to make profile pages for other sites or general use, but you do not store them here. When Christine used her profile page from here at another site, it was deliberately misconstrued by a bully wannabe (of whom she made a laughingstock: She is a sweet Little Girl as long as we control her but she is part-fairy and you do not want to get on the bad side of her). She created another for general use; so we learned that the hard way. The only profile page is part of the main club. The club is ID/password protected and within that, the Profile section is ID/password protected, both by moderately secure password pages. Also, you will need to make some effort to join since we cannot afford the price and upkeep costs of a social network on our own and remain ad-free and a 100% free site. This will keep out those not very interested in being part of our community. Your profile page has no direct links to you; your email address is set in such a way that it cannot be read or copied electronically except by very sophisticated means as described below
To communicate, you must join the main club, We do not even have a forum (since adult forum hosting sites are a bit iffy and unstable, this is almost making a virtue of necessity)
Joining is a 3-step process:
1. You find and read the club page; I will not tell you here where it is. If you find it, that means that you have explored the place and are interested
2. You contact me, I send you the "club kit page" link. You read the page and trigger the link to the club index page. Pick up the profile kit that you want and maybe the tools (recommended). Fill out the profile page, zip it with the things I need to display it
3. You send it to me and I unzip it and move it to the right place and set it up, we set up your username and password in the sign-in pages which I send you and you can go in

We give tons of advice about privacy and security

Then there is the Virtual Reality aspect. This means that the site is organized by activities so that any activities where identities could be found are in specific parts of the site where they would make sense to a little girl. Then she has to contact me for a link to start the process of joining so two additional layers of defense are in place and these are part of the structure of the place

We try to avoid the Mondo Bizarro things. We believe that those who partake of these kinds of things do not have their tiaras on straignt and are a threat to privacy and security

We use s specially designed CAPCHA as a security measure on some of our pages. This one is a bit different and is designed so that a genuine Little Girl could deal with it quite easily

All of this requires a higher level of action on your part but the privacy, security and level of control should make it worth the effort. This is not to say that your privacy cannot be compromised, only that it is very difficult to do so by electronic means and if things are violated by persons, I know who to call and I have some nasty retaliatory methods at my disposal. It is just not worth the effort. Every email attaches to your IP address and in the hands of a knowledgeable person that can be shipped off to the FBI or Russia, China or one of the "...stans", where live spam/virus fairies, in a heartbeat. You would be shocked if you knew how many hardened, gritty real toughs enjoy the life of a sweet little girl and would do anything to protect it and what they think of pedophiles. Also I engage those interested in joining our club in normal conversation. This enables me to know their level of knowledge of, and interest in, the subject matter and if they would be a good fit here

I am writing this in big letters so that you have no excuse for missing it! WE CAN NOT BAIL YOU OUT OF, NOR WILL WE BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE'S STUPID ACTTIONS!! So learn how to not be stupid. We can and will help you with that. This is your first stop for a reason: This is where you learn the do's and do not's to stay out of trouble. that can heppen like crashes, mistakes and that kind of thing, there are things that you do not want to follow you home: And DO NOT think that it cannot hapen to you, It WILL happen to you or at least try to happen. It still happens to me; just very infrequently, not too badly and usually quite fixably. The best things that you can do are to protect yourself as well as you can and to have things in place to recover from a disaster. ALSO: BE SURE TO READ EVERYTHING HERE; starting with the orientation (SEE BELOW). I cannot say often or loud enough that you must take care of yourself.

FIRST THNGS FIRST. These are things of a generally useful nature and if you have not attended to them, do so now ore as soon as possible. Our Security systems uses "Defense in Depth". This is like having more than one rubber sheet on the bed. One is right under baby and we keep two more under the bottome sheet. On your end of things, it is like Mommy putting 2 or 3 rubber panties on you when you go to bed here. That makes six layers of nice, wetproof rubber between you and the mattress. Well that is how we do things here and how we expect you to do things as well. Most of what we advise is "do once" with minimal upkeep. No resource or maintenance hogs or things that are fussy or always having a period.

Start with your browser This is the best. From there, you can go right to Security.
Get AVG Anti-Virus Free Recommended by Kim Komando: I ues the CNET page since I was not sure of the other download pages I saw.
You might consider ANONYMIZER
Be sure to get Flash "Thumbdrives" and Secure Digital (SD) cards and a card reader to back up your valuable material. They come in various sizes of memory up to 32 GB and you can get external backup hard drives of up to 500 GB, which unlike cards and Flash drives are not good to use as additional memory because they are slow
After you read this page, you will be let to continue. Your next stop will be at the Post Office where you will get a mailbox for here. That is where you will pick up your mail. They are reasoably well protected against nasty things and with your secure browser and local defenses in place, plus our measures, you will be very, about 96%, safe, even using our social network aka join the club. I have not used Outlook Express or Thunderbird for years
ABOVE ALL ELSE: NEVER, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES SHORT OF VIOLENCE OR THREAT GIVE ANYONE YOUR USERID OR PASSWORD TO ANYHTING! And never accept the same from anyone else that you do not know very, very well. I should not have to say this, but I have seen it done.
WHAT HAPPENS IN LAS VEGAS STAYS IN LAS VEGAS - The Internet is not Vegas. I have seen too many news reports of persons doing dumb things, like taking crotch shots with the digital camera and putting them up on Myspace and lo and behold, that comes up in a job interview or even worse; meeting a new "friend". Two words: Anthony Weiner; 'nuff said. TAKE THE "SMARTEN UP" PLEDGE:
1. I WILL SMARTEN UP: AND REMEMBER AND UNDERSTAND THAT I AM NOT ALONE HERE AND THE SITE OWNER IS RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT GOES ON HERE AND TAKES THE BEST STEPS THAT ARE AVAILABLE TO PROTECT THIS PLACE AND THOSE WHO COME HERE FROM DOING STUPID THINGS AND GETTING INTO, OR BRINGING TROUBLE
2. I WILL SMARTEN UP: AND NOT TALK ABOUT ANTHING THAT IS NOT ON TOPIC OR TOPIC RELATED HERE. I WILL NOT DISCUSS WORK, SCHOOL, FAMILY, RELIGION, CAUSES, POLITICS OR ANYTHING THAT IS NOT RELATED TO WHAT IS HERE. THE ONLY OFF TOPIC THINGS I WILL GIVE ARE DEMOGRAPHIC: MY AGE, SEX, APPROXIMATE LOCATION (country, state/province/shire/department or the like) AND SEXUAL ORIENTATION AND ONLY SO THAT THERE IS NO MISUNDERSTANDING SEE EXAMPLE
3. I WILL SMARTEN UP: AND NOT TALK ABOUT THIS PLACE WITH ANYONE I KNOW UNLESS THEY ARE EITHER PART OF HERE OR THAT I AM DEAD SURE, WITH SOLID EVIDENCE, THAT THEY ARE INTERESTED IN BEING AN ADULT LITTLE GIRL. I VALUE MY SECURITY TOO MUCH TO BE LOOSE WITH MY TONGUE
4. I WILL SMARTEN UP: AND PRACTICE DUE DILLIGNECE BEFROE PUTTING UP ANYHING THAT CAN IDENTIFY ME, SUCH AS PHOTOS OR VIDEOS, MAKING SURE TO DO THE RESEARCH TO SEE THAT ANY HOSTING I USE IS RELIABLE, TRUSTWORTHY AND DOES WHAT THEY SAY THEY WELL DO: I REMEBER ANTHONY WEINER ALL TOO WELL
5. I WILL SMARTEN UP: AND FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS BECAUSE I KNOW THEY PROTECT ME. THAT ALSO MEANS, BEFORE GOING IN, READING AND UNDERSTANDING ALL ORIENTATION MATERIAL AND CODES SO THAT I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING AND I EXPECT TO HAVE IT MADE CERTAIN THAT I KNOW AND DO
6. I WILL SMARTEN UP: AND FOLLOW THE SANDRALYN SYSTEM HERE, WHICH I HAVE READ AND UNDERSTAND SINCE I WISH TO BE TAKEN AT MY WORD. I KNOW THAT IT IS IN MY BEST INTEREST FOR MY WORD TO BE GOOD AND THAT SANDRALYN IS A SYSTEM THAT PRVENTS PROBLEMS AND THE DEGRADATION OF THIS SITE INTO A FREAK HOLE, CREEP SHOW, PIG STY OR MONDO BIZARRO
7. I HAVE SMARTENED UP: I HAVE READ, UNDERSTAND AND WILL ABIDE BY THE "SMARTEN UP" PLEDGE
I will presume that you have taken this pledge and then make sure you have. There is too much at stake here and I am ultimately responsible for what happenes here
ADDRESSES: WE NEVER WRITE AN ADDRESS USING THE "@" OR ".": BADBOTS LOCK ONTO THOSE AND YOU ARE IN TROUBLE.We:
- use "at"instead of "@" and "dot" instead of "." like "bridget_alicia at verizon dot net"
- use images like this
- use mixed text and images. We wirte out the address but use images of the "at" and "dot" Like bridget_aliciaverizonnet
Every name is an alias and every address is a storefront in New Jersey: Do you really think my real name is Bridget Alicia?
TMI: Too Much Information. KEEP IT ON TOPIC!!! We do not need to know if your favorite read is Atlas Shrugged or if you are a Yankee fan or that your favorite movie was Raiders of the Lost Ark, your job or that you are a soduku fan or Alice Cooper fan. They add risk of being traced and found and clutter and do not contribute anything useful here unless they relate to your ALG interest Alice in Wonderland, Anne of Green Gables or the like or if you job is related to what we are about here. You are building a life here, anything extraneous is just in the way and possibly dangerous; therefore useless and unwanted

90% of the trouble persons get into is self-inflicted and is usually the result of failure to do the above. If you do not put diapers and rubber panties on a toddler, she will smell up the place, right? HERE IS A MORE THOROUGH DISCUSSION OF SECURITY; PLEASE READ IT. So if you do what you should then between you and me, we have it as closed to knocked as can be. One more thing: Who said I told you the truth about everything that I have or am doing? In fact, the hardest systems to figure out are those that are a mix of truths and lies because you have to figure out which is which if you are up to no good here. Neither of us need to know what the other has or does, only that it is being done. So security and privacy are a mixture of

Structure and layout: Easily and naturally understood and navigated by the interested but not the uninterested who do not "know the code". This makes for a certain "logic" that the interested will grasp
Knowledge, Information and disinformation: I give you the principles by which we can protect ourselves and do a bit of misleading that, since I know what Little Girls are made of, would affect nobody but the troublesome
Tools, Processes and Resources: I use certain tools in the right places and also point you in the direction of tools that help you. These tools are easy to use, do not need much attention and are not resource hogs. I also avoid and cousel and prohibit those things that pose a threat or annoyance. We have no main forum to attract trolls and spammers and, the "logic" of the place is a process that will automatically guide the interested but be a WTF moment to the total stranger to the interest at each step of the way. Even if a spammer makes his way to the Members area of the club, he has to read each address and contact each member separately and deal with her webmail system which means that getting the job done is as much or more work than getting there. which was bad enough and bots, which could probably read and navigate the whole site with ease, but cannot read critical parts of critical data, will be totally useless here
Control: I control what goes on here
Bilateral Cooperation: You take care of your end and I take care of mine and we look out for each other.
Uniqueness: "The devil is in the details". All these things, applied in a way that is based on our specific interests and carried out by all of us individually and collectively, makes this a puzzle palace for the troublesom because they have to figure out the details one by one at each step. On the other hand, you do not need to, nor should, know what I am doing and I do not need, nor should, know what you are doing: What one does not know, one cannot reveal or unintentionally make useless

So security does not have to be burdensome or cracking the whip. Just a little common sense, following the course of nature and the intelligent application of tools and processes by all concerned. Even the would-be troublemakers end up contributing to our security. If they go to our webmail, they become knwon to the protective software and go into the database. If they get past that, they register on FireFox and go into the security database update. If you have godd security software, it spots thdir little bomb and puts that in its database update. So not only do they not get what they want, they expose themselves to about 3 levels of security across the scope of the web since if they get put in the yahoo! mail, FireFox, AVG or avast! database that goes to every yanoo! mail,FireFox, AVG and avast! user. Beyond that, they also make the security units aware of others like them who use the same technology or techniques. Once your webmail sees one instance of a certain piece of malware being used by one villain, it recognizes it when andother villain tries to use it so one villain ruins it for 100 others. Now since our method requires any addresses to be human-read by ones and twos or read by prohibitively, for the spammer/malware distributer, expensive software, the villain cannot batch-mail in the same way that a badbot, which could do it in a milisecond, can. This takes more time and means more risk of being caught by security software